what is a sub or slave

The submissive, or sub

The role of the submissive appears to be somewhat simpler, but in actuality, the sub plays a large role in shaping the B&D relationship. The sub�s primary role is to follow her Dom�s directions and to please the Dom. Being submissive does not mean that the sub is a doormat for the Dom. The sub is the Dom�s companion, his student, and his lover.

As a companion, the sub is treated with respect and dignity, is allowed to voice opinions, and allowed to share in the Dom�s activities. This is the area where the sub is the most equal with the Dom.

As a student, the sub learns how to please the Dom, and when done, expects to be rewarded by the Dom. Likewise, when not done or done incorrectly, the sub expects to be corrected and shown the right way to act.

As a lover, the sub goes out of her way to please the Dom because she genuinely cares for his well being. The sub does this, not out of fear of pain or retribution, but because she wants to give the Dom pleasure. The sub does not want the Dom to be disappointed with her. The sub takes pleasure from the fact that the Dom is pleased.

The slave

The slave is a higher gradient of submissiveness in B&D. A slave�s primary purpose in life is to serve the needs and desires of the Master. The slave relinquishes all control to the Master, because the slave knows the Master has her well-being totally at heart. The slave is marked by her Master in some fashion to show ownership. This is done with a coller with the letters of the name of their Master or Mistress on it.